If we come to fully understand Prayer then we will grow in our relationship with God. We will see change – We will see something happen. GROWTH that can not happen any other way.


Let us go to the Bible & answer these 2 questions:

What Is Meant By Prayer?


What Is Meant By Help?


Prayer is not about stuff & God is not the cosmic ATM where you walk up, pull out your I Am A Follower Of Christ Card & say “Give me stuff”.

God wants to give you things … scripture teaches that God gives awesome gifts, but the FUNDAMENTAL Element of Prayer is Communion – It is about Learning –

Its About Learning:

  • Who God Is

  • Who You Are

  • What God Wants For You &

  • What God Wants From You In Order To Benefit Others

We should not hesitate to ask God – If we are sick, We Should ask – If someone has needs, We Should ask – If we need a job, We Should ask …

Jesus says Ask For These Things – Ask for them in my name & if it is according to God’s will it will be given to you. Mt. 7:11

There is an important key – God’s Will

If you mean by PRAYER … An arrogant attempt to change God’s will & plan to conform to MY schedule, MY desires & MY wants.  That is not True PrayerThe Bible teaches Prayer is something totally different.


Jesus begins with himself, or does he? Vs. 1 “Glorify your Son”  but Vs. 3 tells us why, “that they know you the only true God, and (know) Jesus Christ whom you have sent.”

Vs. 5 John 17:5 (ESV) “And now, Father, glorify me in your own presence with the glory that I had with you before the world existed.” Again, He is talking about Himself but notice He is praying about God’s will. God, these are the things I understand you want & I am expressing my submission to your will.

He then begins to pray about the disciples,

John 17:8-19 (ESV) 8 For I have given them the words that you gave me, and they have received them and have come to know in truth that I came from you …

Vs. 11 “… but they are in the world” & Jesus prays, keep them safe (vs. 11b , 12) …

Vs. 14 “the world has hated them …” vs. 15 Keep them safe.

Vs. 17 Sanctify them in the TRUTH – Your word is TRUTH

Vs. 19 “I consecrate myself that they also may be sanctified in TRUTH.”

(Truth Is A Very Big Word & Very Important Word)

Then He then begins to pray for (vs. 20) You & Me “I do not ask for these only, but also for those who will believe in me through their word,

  • that they all be one (in the same way Jesus & the Father are one)

  • that they may be in us (so that the world may believe)

  • that they may become perfectly one (so that the world may know …)

  • that they may be with me where I am to see … Glory

  • that the love with which you have loved me may be in them & I in them


What Does The Bible Mean By PRAYER?

It Is Communication,

It Is The Way By Which We Know Things

Not Get Things But Know Things

It is easy to understand why people get confused about this –

In the process of knowing things We actually Get Things along the way.

Matthew 6:33 (ESV) But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.




THAT KNOWLEDGE IS ABOUT GOD And Along The Way Other Things Happen.

Am I Teaching the TRUTH?

How Do We Know This Is The Case?

Not just from Jesus’ prayer – He is the Son of God – so maybe His prayer is not the kind of prayer we should pray –

The disciples ask Him . . .

Luke 11:1 (ESV) Now Jesus was praying in a certain place, and when he finished, one of his disciples said to him, “Lord, teach us to pray, as John taught his disciples.”

We find this both in Luke 11 & Mathew 6. This is often called “The Lord’s Prayer” but this is a prayer to be prayed by His followers. The disciples said “Teach US to pray” & Jesus said “When YOU pray say …

Matthew 6:7-13 (ESV) 7 “And when you pray, do not heap up empty phrases as the Gentiles do, for they think that they will be heard for their many words. 8 Do not be like them, for your Father knows what you need before you ask him. 9 Pray then like this: “Our Father in heaven, hallowed be your name. 10 Your kingdom come, your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven. 11 Give us this day our daily bread, 12 and forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors. 13 And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.

Read this SLOWLY and it becomes easy to see what prayer actually is in this model.

  1. Our Father in heaven …” Prayer is actually worship. Who God is & Who you are. He is your Father, a family relationship built upon LOVE & Authority. You are an adopted CHILD of the King. That is a WONDERFUL thing.

  2. Our Father in heaven, hallowed be your name.” Jesus adds to that thought, “hallowed”, the idea of being HOLY – The very name of God is Holy. So in proper prayer we recognize His place. Him being the Father, you are the child – He is Holy – you & I … not so much.

  3. Your kingdom come, your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven. Recognizing He is the Ruler – He is the King. Everything that we ask for, everything we do, everything we ask, we ask as His servant to His will. He is King every hour of every day. Through PRAYER we recognize His Place & our place.

  4. Now – What are we to ask for? “Give us this day our daily bread”. Jesus never taught to ask for tons of stuff. Give us fancy cars & a boat & A lot of money, Give me a promotion at work … “Give us this day our daily bread” Give Us Our Daily Needs – Provide For Us Our Needs. That is the idea the “daily bread” represents. It Is Your Father’s Will That You Have Your Needs Fulfilled.  And our experience often is that we find we have more than we need, we have enough to share. I have come to believe that the FUNDAMENTAL Will of the Father is to give you what you need. Jesus actually told the disciples, told us, that our Heavenly Father knows what we need even before we ask Him. A Holy Prayer, A Non-Selfish Prayer Simply Ask For What You Need.

Think with me for just a moment – What is it that YOU need? Do you need more channels, Do you need your phone? I think I do. I am looking at a computer screen right now. We are using electronics & PowerPoint projectors and lighting & a sound system. Do I need all that to preach from God’s word this morning.  Even this building. The 1st century church grew & flourished & exploded by meeting in small mud brick homes. Think about what it is that you need & how much more you have than you will ever need. We are to pray for our needs to be met.


  1. The very next verse in this prayer, vs. 12 “Forgive us our debts” That is God’s will, that our sins will be forgiven. It is His will that you be forgiven – That you obtain salvation. How do I know that it is His will you be forgiven, He sent His Son who lived the example, who had no Sin of His own yet went to the Cross, paid the debt for your sin on the Cross so that you & I could obtain forgiveness & then rose from the dead on the 3rd day to PROVE that He did what He said He came to do. When we pray “Forgive us of our debts” we should be reminded that the most fundamental need we have is for forgiveness & That He Provided The Way

  2. This model prayer not only serves to remind & teach us who God is & who we are & that we are to be in submission to the Lord & King – It not only reminds us that we have a fundamental need of forgiveness but it also teaches us we are to mold our character into being a people of forgiveness. “Forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors.” The debts we owe are many & varied & serious & we are to be ready & willing to forgive those who have done the same to us. This is a petition, God make me like your Son, make me like You. Make me a person of forgiveness, mold my character.

The pattern we see throughout this prayer:

We see Who God Is – HOLY

We see God’s Will is the important part. We Are To Pray “Your Will Be Done . . .”

God’s Will for me is that:

  • My Needs are met –

  • My sins are forgiven –

  • My character is shaped in such a way that I can forgive others.

Does Prayer Really Help – Depends Upon What You Mean By PRAYER

If You Mean By Prayer … An Arrogant Attempt To Change God’s Will & Plan To Conform To MY Schedule, MY Desires & MY Wants.                   Then No.

BUT If you mean by PRAYER … That we are to conform our will to His & not His will to ours, then YES, PRAYER does Help – IT ALWAYS HELPS – 

What I mean by HELP is that you become more like God, Not you getting more stuff.

Paul Says Something Amazing About Prayer In 2 Corinthians 12:7-9 (ESV) 7 So to keep me from becoming conceited because of the surpassing greatness of the revelations, a thorn was given me in the flesh, a messenger of Satan to harass me, to keep me from becoming conceited. 8 Three times I pleaded with the Lord about this, that it should leave me. 9 But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.”

I wonder how welcoming that was to Paul. I also wonder, would that be a welcome thing for you to hear? If you had Terminal Cancer, MS, chronic illness, something you considered to be “a messenger of Satan” – something you pleaded with the Lord about & God says to you . . . “My Power Is Made Perfect In Your Weakness And My Grace Is Sufficient For You.”

Is That OK With You???

Is That OK With You???

Paul, after hearing that from his LORD, is able to continue to grow in his life in Christ … “Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me. For the sake of Christ, then, I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamities. For when I am weak, then I am strong.”

Did Paul’s prayer Fail or did it HELP?

2 Cor. 2:7b Paul prays, he pleads with the Lord & the answer is NO (If Paul prayed & the answer was NO then you & I are going to get some No(s) from God). Our question is, “Does It Help?”

The answer to Paul’s prayer was NO – I am not taking this away from you.

I want you to be able to see that NO from God is not a failure & more that that – NO actually helps Paul. His thorn in the flesh remained with Paul but it showed Paul – It taught something to Paul that was far greater.

Paul gains an insight that lasts . . .

Physical healing is great but temporary. Those of us that have infirmities, can be rescued, – but only temporarily. Jesus “rescued” Lazarus in an amazing way John 11:43 & we may desire that, but at some point Lazarus was carried back to the grave. TEMPORARY!

By God’s plan, Through God’s Love, Paul learns something that lasts beyond his own lifetime.

My Grace Is Sufficient For You”

That is an incredible TRUTH that transcends, outlast, goes far beyond physical healing of ANY kind.

It is tremendous! I wonder – could Paul have learned this any other way?

Could Paul have come to understand the Power of God’s Grace Being Sufficient For Him, Had That Thorn In The Flesh Not Been Given To Him? His suffering produced something great in Paul. The denial of his request to God – the NO – produced something even greater. 

Deliverance From Pain – Deliverance From Difficulty – Deliverance From Hardship

All Of It Is Temporary – GRACE IS FOREVER!


SO, did Prayer help? Absolutely Prayer Helped. I believe Paul would not have learned about this Powerful Grace – This Amazing Grace had it not been for the Power Of Prayer.

Make No Mistake – Prayer Is Powerful

1 John 5:14, 15 (ESV) And this is the confidence that we have toward him, that if we ask anything according to his will he hears us. And if we know that he hears us in whatever we ask, we know that we have the requests that we have asked of him.

CONFIDENCE that if we ask “according to His will . . .”

CONFIDENCE – Not Just Hope – Confidence & Knowledge, those are the words John uses to tell us that God helps us through prayer.

So Does Prayer Really Help?

If by Prayer you mean communication with God to find out His will & If by Help you mean conforming our will to His will so that we can serve the Kingdom of God then:

YES Prayer Helps – It Helps In A Very REAL Way b/c prayer is not about getting Stuff.

If your FAITH is such that you know God’s will for you is simply what is BEST for you.




HE NEVER FAILS in KNOWING, GIVING & DOING what is BEST – If you are seeking is to be conformed into God’s will then Prayer Never Fails

Let’s Pray – Father, we are so thankful for this gift of prayer. Remind us to pray often, Teach us to seek, listen & learn your will. Strengthen our faith in You so that we can trust you for our needs & seek you so that we may grow & become more like you, more like Jesus. Grant us the wisdom to understand what we need is Forgiveness – Not More Stuff. In Christ’s name & through Him we pray.


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